Michael Jordan Sometimes the action that helps the man to tell his story and to help connect him with his loss is a very practical matter. One of the most common is when the man uses his work as a means to tell his story. That’s what Michael Jordan did. In August of 1993 Michael […]
Scientists have now determined that at 2 months in utero the male fetus is flooded with the mother’s testosterone thus turning the baby boy’s brain into what is being called a “male brain.6” The male brain is being characterized as a problem solving brain or maybe more accurately a brain that is built for understanding […]
I have been working with men and boys who have faced trauma for many years. Much of my efforts have been in helping them understand their own process and helping them through it. This page will take a different approach. It will instead focus on helping women understand the men and boys in their lives […]
The more I worked with grieving men in the 1980’s and 90’s the more I became aware of a strong cultural bias against men and anything having to do with emotions/dependency. The grief and trauma gave me a very good view into the hardships that traumatized men faced in not being heard or acknowledged in […]
The more I worked with grieving men in the 1980’s and 90’s the more I became aware of a strong cultural bias against men and anything having to do with emotions/dependency. The grief and trauma gave me a very good view into the hardships that traumatized men faced in not being heard or acknowledged in […]
First a disclaimer. There are some men and boys who are not only able to talk freely about their emotions but also enjoy doing it. We don’t want to generally portray them as being totally different from women in the ways they do their processing. There are some men who really enjoy support groups and […]
This article is the first in a series of articles geared to help women get closer to the men and boys they love. If you want more info on this topic you can see Tom’s new kindle book The Way Men Heal now available at amazon. Articles to follow will focus on the reasons men’s […]
This is an excerpt from Tom’s ebook “The Way Men Heal.” This is a part of the section on tips for helping men. Links to purchase can be found on the right sidebar. Entering His Space The first thing to keep in mind is to find some alternative to the traditional face to face talking […]
Why and How do Men Keep Their Emotional Pain Invisible? For a much more detailed version of these natural paths for men and to see how they do actually heal and deal with their feelings you might want to check out my new and very inexpensive ebook The Way Me Heal. Why is it that […]
I was walking through the woods the other day, completely merged with the sound of the wood thrush, when suddenly my left foot twisted under me as I stepped on a root jutting out in the path. I felt it starting to twist and relieved it by taking all of my weight off that foot, thereby tumbling […]